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Rapport (Communication) Part 2.

So you are back!


What have we learnt thus far about ‘COMMUNICATION’?

On the whole not much, but at the same time, quite a bit. So, we will continue to have a further look at these ‘SENSES.'  Having briefly already looked at, and how ‘SIGHT.' and ‘TOUCH.', make this picture a whole, I intend on finishing up with the other three essential Senses involved in our daily lives. We continually are bombarded with all the SENSES. Unless specifically pointed out, our brain continues to have its’ synapses exploding away and directing each of us into some form of action, as a reaction to the stimuli that each of us receives continuously! We all would be astounded, if just a snapshot of all the electrical activity that continually, occurs by the millisecond in the brain, what a picture it would be!

‘HEARING.’- (ears – each side od the head) Assuming that we can hear, and yes, not all of us do possess this Sense, (more on the Hearing Disabled later) again many sounds bombard us constantly. However, we all have FILTERING systems that either take in and organise what and how we hear various sounds. Conversations, music, crowds chattering away in crowded places. You get the idea. Even those of us who have had to resort to hearing aids improve hearing, utilise a filtering system. Sometimes, of course, it is just a matter turning down the Volume control or switching the Aid to the ‘Telephone.' Indicator in the Aid to increase and clarify the speech of the caller on the other end and subdue any exterior noises to hear clearly and have a conversation. To be able to hear is a Sense that allows us to partake in the world around us. The structure of the ear is unique, but the essential method by which we hear is the each ear has three parts. The Outer ear, (ear lobe, Auricle and Auditory Canal) collects the sounds and migrates through to the MIDDLE ear (eardrum orTympany membrane, Malleus, Incus and Stapes also known as the ‘Hammer, Anvil and Stirrup’ – the smallest bone in our body. All otherwise referred to as the Ossicles and continually vibrate.Temporal bone, Tympanic cavity, Semicircular ducts, Vestibular nerve, Cochlea and the Cochlear nerve). As the sound travels, it amplifies and changes from air to liquid. Moreover, the INNER ear has the Auditory tube which drains fluid from the MIDDLE ear into the throat behind the nose. Thus the BRAIN and the AUDITORY SYSTEM work together to control how each of us hears and importantly, HOW we BALANCE ourselves. We can hear on land, underwater, or while in the air. The primary purpose of the ear is to turn sound waves from the air into electrical signals that are interpreted by the brain. ( With hearing comes the complexities of speech and just how that occurs. Yep, this writer is sure that you have heard of the vocal chords! The reason that I have gone into more than usual detail regarding hearing is that it is the most complex of the human senses.

neuron brain function

Now having established that Hearing and Speech are connected, awareness of how we hear and speak to one another is important. All relationships rely on the multiple senses interaction. Whether it is to teach your little one a new word, to direct them, to praise or scold them, each party needs to have both facilities working. Adults, we talk with our business colleagues, fellow students, in different social arenas and as couples, we need to have the ability to converse together. How we do that is another subject altogether! Possessing the skills to ‘hear’ your partner and to have the RAPPORT that comes with it? Do you spend the majority of your time together arguing/disagreeing, does suspicion of the whether one party is honest or trying to “pull the wool”over your eyes, and thus one side continuously evaluates any or all the words in any one conversation for honesty? Alternatively, are you lucky enough to be in a relationship that is respectful and thus honest? If so, congratulations as this is indeed a rarity! I do not know about you, but I, in all my years of working with people, rarely found that any one person is honest in any particular relationship. However, everyone needs that inner space where the individual can go (INWARDS) and evaluate just how he or she (you and me) feels about any one subject. Moreover, yes, we do not have to divulge everything to another. This writer prefers to call this status as “inner peace”.


So here we are, three of the 5 Senses are vital in having RAPPORT! Hearing, Touch and Sight.

The last two Senses, SMELL and TASTE, are also intimately aligned. For instance, if a fire breaks out, the smell of smoke is detected from quite far away and (at times) we can orally feel a bitter sensation. These two Senses – Taste and Smell help us interpret the chemical world around us, Although they are separate senses, with their receptors organs (brain again!). TASTANTS, chemicals in food constantly detected by taste buds- special sensory cells located all over our tongue. As and when stimulated, these cells send signals to specific areas of the brain, which makes us aware of the perception of taste. Similarly, specialised cells in the nose pick up ODORANTS, airborne odour molecules. Odorants stimulate receptor proteins found on the hairlike cilia at the tips of the sensory cells. This process initiates a neural response.Ultimately, these two senses converge, and allow us to detect the various flavours of food. Each person has 5,000 – 10,000 taste buds and each taste bud consists of 50 – 100specialised sensory cells, which stimulate these tastants such as sugar, salt or acid (think lemons). When stimulated, they signal messages to transferred to the ends of nerve fibres, which sends impulses along cranial nerves to taste regions in the brainstem. From the brainstem, impulses are relayed to the thalamus and a particular area of the cerebral cortex, thus making us aware of the perception of taste. ( 2012) For more in-depth information, please refer to the reference sources.

Okay, now you are asking what has all this to do with the website?As the writer, I would be reckless if I did not give just a brief outline of these five SENSES as each person's eroticism, sexuality, sex drive/libido and orgasm emanate from the brain. The sight of your partner and the thought of sex/intercourse happens in the brain. Hello, the light bulb is sparked! Pheromones: a chemical substance that we (animals and insects too) produce to attract each other and to mate. Alternatively, in this instance, have intercourse. Unlike animals or insects, we as humans, have intercourse as a pleasurable and stimulating activity, while animals and insects do so to reproduce. For example, we females are aroused by the peculiar smell of a male's sweat, while a man may be turned on by the different scent of the woman’s vagina as she lubricates. Each of us has our personal ‘smell.'  Thus, SIGHT, SMELL, TOUCH, TASTE and HEARING all play into each other and together and we have a uniquely pleasurable time!

Peta Moore.

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